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(week 129) 19 June 2014 12-step Big Book workshop
Big Book The entire last paragraph of page 60:
‘The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success…(top of page 61) But as with most humans, he is more likely to have varied traits.’
Step 3 commitments: Stephanie will continue taking these for the next few weeks.
Stephanie encourages us all to come so we can get to know one another. She wants to get down in the trenches with all of us and make herself more available to us.
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Each person is like an actor who wants to run the show.
Q1 Are you a person who wants to run the show?
Really look at yourself in relation to your spouse, work colleagues, children, sponsees, neighbours, even your pets. Really look at whether or not you are trying to run the show.
b) Be honest and see that wherever we try to control, it is in fact us who are being controlled. e.g.When I try to control my son, he controls me. Write on this.
Q2 I can be right and have my own way or I can be happy. Write on this.
Q3. What is written in this paragraph on page 60 is explained even more in the next three pages. Recommend that we read to the end of page 63. Then examine your own life as the foundation work of your fourth step.
b) Why do you have a resentment?
It is all in this paragraph. The make-up of every single resentment: they didn’t do it your way. They didn’t love, like, respect you. They wanted their own opinion and to do things their way. There’s a lot of reasons why we should be resentful. And yet there isn’t a good enough reason to let that resentment into your life no matter what they have done. There’s nothing anybody has ever done that deserves you laying down your life. You deserve to rise above the resentment of not having things your own way and having a good life. Once we have a resentment towards anyone they own us. It all stems from right here: we want to run the show.
Stephanie will go over these pages for the next three weeks and meanwhile she suggests we continue to read pages 60-63 so that we will be able to really see our part in resentments. There is no room for ‘yeah buts’ when do the fourth step. A ‘yeah but’ will keep you in a prison. And this fourth and fifth step is your pass for parole. Come out of the jail of being controlled by other people because you didn’t do it your way. Come out and enjoy life. Let them go. Does that mean you have to invite them for Christmas dinner? No. Do I have to send them a birthday card? No. But it does mean you just let them go and when the resentment comes up say: God this is an angry man or woman how can I be helpful? Thy will not mine be done. Then get on. The best revenge is a happy joyful life.
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