(week 341) 26 July 2018 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop
Call back number: 641 715 3900 pin no. 95666# (available for a week)
Open Study Buddy group on Sundays 11-12am EST.
319 527 3511 pin no. 587213#
Tuesdays 8am EST
Reading the AA literature: Living Sober & As Bill Sees It.
Everyone is encouraged to come to this awesome group.
To listen to the recording: 641 715 3900 pin no. 298913#
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P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358
If you are new to the workshop (or not receiving the questions) please
phone Sue W *HS Ruddock on: 434 987 4346 and email her at: BR8A@hscmail.mcc.virginia.edu
If you do not have a members’ list ask Sue to email it to you to enable you
to phone other members. If someone is no longer on the meeting it is an opportunity to ask if they would be interested in joining the next Big Book workshop which will start after we finish Step 12 & Tradition 12.
The next Big Book Study Group will start on Thursday 13 September 2018.
Tell anyone you think may be interested in joining.
Step 12: “Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.”
AA 12 x 12 pages 115-116
‘After we come into A.A., if we go on growing, our attitudes and actions toward security—emotional security and financial security—commence to change profoundly. Our demand for emotional security, for our own way, had constantly thrown us into unworkable relations with other people. Though we were sometimes quite unconscious of this, the result always had been the same. Either we had tried to play God and dominate those about us, or we had insisted on being overdependent upon them. Where people had temporarily let us run their lives as though they were still children, we had felt very happy and secure ourselves. But when they finally resisted or ran away, we were bitterly hurt and disappointed. We blamed them, being quite unable to see that our unreasonable demands had been the cause.
When we had taken the opposite tack and had insisted, like infants ourselves, that people protect and take care of us or that the world owed us a living, then the result had been equally unfortunate. This often caused the people we had loved most to push us aside or perhaps desert us entirely. Our disillusionment had been hard to bear. We couldn’t imagine people acting that way toward us. We had failed to see that though adult in years we were still behaving childishly, trying to turn everybody—friends, wives, husbands, even the world itself—into protective parents. We had refused to learn the very hard lesson that over-dependence upon people is unsuccessful because all people are fallible, and even the best of them will sometimes let us down, especially when our demands for attention become unreasonable.
As we made spiritual progress, we saw through these fallacies. It became clear that if we ever were to feel emotionally secure among grown-up people, we would have to put our lives on a give-and-take basis; we would have to develop the sense of being in partnership or brotherhood with all those around us. We saw that we would need to give constantly of ourselves without demands for repayment. When we persistently did this we gradually found that people were attracted to us as never before. And even if they failed us, we could be understanding and not too seriously affected.’
Q1. Who are you blaming in your life today? Why are you blaming them?
Do a 10th step on this.
[I am resentful at so-and-so, the Cause. Affects my… Think about your
blaming and how it affects your self-esteem, pride, personal relationships, security, pocket book and your sex relations.]
Q2. When I point a finger at someone, three come back to me.
Write on this slogan.
Q3. Awareness comes from God. Then the key ingredient is willingness. Followed by action and then acceptance. Does this apply to you in this order?
Or do you have awareness, then acceptance followed by action and willingness.
Write on your experience?
Our disillusionment had been hard to bear.
Q4a) Write about your past disillusionment.
b) Is there any area of you life where you are really disillusioned today? If so, how are you going to get through it sober?
[For Stephanie to be disillusioned is to be hopeless, discouraged]
It became clear that if we ever were to feel emotionally secure among grown-up people, we would have to put our lives on a give-and-take basis; we would have to develop the sense of being in partnership or brotherhood with all those around us.
Q5. Give an example of what Bill means by a give-and-take basis.
If you don’t have one, imagine what it might it look like?
Our live phone meetings are every Tuesday at 8:00 AM EST. The phone number for these live meetings is (712) 775-7031, and the meeting ID number is 714744988#.
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358
You can listen to our recorded meetings at (641) 715-3900, pin 95666# for our Tuesday Big Book Step Study workshop. You can also hear our Thursday Big Book Study recordings at (641) 715-3900, pin 298913#. These meetings can be accessed at any time.