(week 131) 3 July 2014 12-step Study Big Book All Addictions workshop
Big Book The last paragraph of page 60 finishing on page 61
‘The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success…… But as with most humans, he is more likely to have varied traits.’
Step 3 commitments:
Stephanie will keep taking Third Step commitments, one before 8am EST for those who can come on conference call a few minutes early and two commitments after the workshop. For those who cannot make the live meeting, you may commit privately by phone.
Contact her for an appointment to do so. But she encourages whoever can to commit in front of the group because of the powerfulness of the experience.
email@example.com or cell: 617 774 7916
Q1 Write down what it is to make a decision and have an action plan.
Q2. Do you hear the music that God is giving you? Do you dance to God’s music or are you fighting it?
Q3. How do you reconcile the Third Step with praying, planning, protecting and the spirit of the third step.
Circle ‘if only’
Q4 How much time did you waste on ‘if only’. What are your ‘if only’s’ today?
Q5.Do you still live with that lie that if only people would do what we hoped life would be great?
The biggest number one lie we tell ourselves is if only (fill in the blank) would do as I wish, my life would be great. Write about that.
Q6 How can you turn your life over to God and want to play God by wishing people, situations corporations and culture were different? [This is really a good place to really examine your belief system].
Q7 We are at the turning point. Are you willing to smash your old way of thinking and really come into living Let Go and Let God?
Look up: virtuous.
Q7. Do you know a truly virtuous person? A person who really is kind, considerate, patient, modest, self-sacrificing all without a motive. without a motive. List people. Then get to know them. Invite them into your inner circle and have them as a role model in your life.
[You don’t put them on a pedestal as they are not always going to have these traits as nobody is perfect, but they basically live their life without a selfish, self-centered motive].
Q8a). List and write about a time when you were kind considerate, self-sacrificing without a motive. Then write a prayer thanking God.
b) Write an example of when you were kind considerate with a motive. How did it turn out?
How did you feel when you realised you really had a motive?
c) Write a prayer asking God to help you change that situation.
[You may need to make an amend to God, to yourself, the other person we hurt or harmed and you may want to talk about it with somebody].
d) List somebody in your life that is mean, egotistical, selfish, you may be listing yourself. How can you be kind considerate, modest self-sacrificing with this person?
When we can have no motive and really live a virtuous life with these type of people we will have 1) joy and 2) be recovered – from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.
Our addiction stems from our mind. It stems from our selfishness and self-centeredness and when we can be kind to those who are mean and egotistical then we have recovered. We have the armor of being totally indifferent to our addictive substances. When writing the Big Book they knew this way of life was the answer to alcoholism. Unfortunately the real truth doesn’t get told very often. We are told a lot of emotional and physical tools that will help us to be recovered and they are absolutely wonderful to help us recover physically, but they only give us momentary emotional relief. They don’t cure the underlying emotional imbalance which is the spiritual malady called selfishness and self-centeredness.
Our live phone meetings are every Tuesday at 8:00 AM EST. The phone number for these live meetings is (712) 775-7031, and the meeting ID number is 714744988#.
P O Box 531
North Pembroke MA 02358
You can listen to our recorded meetings at (641) 715-3900, pin 95666# for our Tuesday Big Book Step Study workshop. You can also hear our Thursday Big Book Study recordings at (641) 715-3900, pin 298913#. These meetings can be accessed at any time.