(week 149) 6 November 2014 12-step study Big Book Step Workshop
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Support the Buddy Group. When you go with the attitude what can I contribute without expect anything in return then you are really recovered. In recovery we give what we have, we give it gratefully and to anybody who needs it. The gift is that when you give abundantly you get so much joy. Its a wonderful way of life. If you want a buddy or to be a buddy: write to email@example.com
AA 12 & 12 para 1: “Then it is explained that other Steps of the A.A. program can be practiced with success only when Step Three is given a determined and persistent trial. … ’til end of p. 41:
“In all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we can pause, ask for quiet, and in the stillness simply say: “God grant me the serenity … Thy will, not mine, be done.”
Q(1) Do you really want to get well? Go into your core; go into meditation on this.
Some people don’t really want to get well. They like the excuse: ‘this is my behavior because I’m an addict!’. But recovered doesn’t mean stopping being an addict. It means (1) my mind and (2) my actions are not crazy; they are disciplined and checked out with my HP and evenly-yoked mentors.
Q(2) Are you willing to know what you have to do so you can compromise (be negotiable) with other people but still have and get done what you have to?
Going to God and not to our egos:
It takes an act of self-will to align our egos with God’s Will.
Ego can be very, very defeating with our relationships. But, with our self-will, we can tone our ego down and use persistence and determination to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God.
Q3 Do you really want to be successful in step four and that you have thoroughly cleaned house? Go to the core of this in meditation.
[Some addicts say they want to get well but down deep they don’t. They go around with the attitude of: I am an addict so you had better just excuse my behaviour. When you do the Big Book step study process you lose your excuse of not knowing. While you are still an addict, when recovered the mind and actions are not crazy. They are disciplined. They are checked out with a higher power and evenly yoked mentors].
Q4. Are you really willing to not have your own way?
Q5. Are you willing to go to God rather than using self-will and your ego to run things?
b) Are you willing to hand over all areas of your life to God: relationships, work, home, health, finances etc.?
c) If not, what areas do you still want to hold onto? What are your fears about handing them over?
Q6. Explore how you can use your self-will for positive or negative.
Q7. Are you convinced that you need the third step in every area of your life: recovery, work, parenting, sponsoring, romantic/platonic relationships, etc?
Q8. What in this week did you take charge of instead of working the third step?
If you went to to God for everything, talk about the success – it is way more important.
[You get recovered by accentuating what you do right. Stephanie got clean with her food by focusing on what she had achieved and replacing negative with positive talk].
Q9. Do you trust the God of your understanding to take care of you as you prepare to embark on step four and lay yourself bare, looking at your own selfishness and self-centredness? Are you willing?
Q10. Get yourself evenly yoked with like-minded people who will guide you with no judgement.
If you need practical help with structure for your Quiet Time go to the recordings of the Trust and Rely workshop: 12stepstudyworkshop.com.
Write down: FEAR: Face Everything (with God ) and Recover..
Q11. How many times a day are you willing to do the third step and turn something over and not have your own way?
When he acquires willingness, he is the only one who can make the decision to exert himself.
Q12. Are you willing to let God take over your thoughts and your actions?
Underline: ‘trying to do this is an act of will’
Above the word: ‘exertion’ write ‘self-will.’
Q13. Write down: We trust to God’s will.
Spend a couple of days of Quiet Time reflecting on this.
‘Trust’ is the biggest word in recovery
Q14a). Do you trust the recovery process?
b) Do you trust your God?
c) Do you trust your evenly yoked mentor? Stephanie?
d) Do you trust the group and your buddy/buddy group to God’s will?
Q15. The Serenity Prayer. Write on this as much as you want including taking it word by word. Also at: 12stepstudyworkshop.com there is an excellent Serenity Prayer handout.
Q16. Think about what it means to turn your thoughts and actions over to a Higher Power. [For Stephanie it means the greatest life ever which she would not give up for anything.]
Q Stephanie urges us to:
Q17. ‘Call one another. Your sisters doing this process are more important than I am.’
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You can listen to our recorded meetings at (641) 715-3900, pin 95666# for our Tuesday Big Book Step Study workshop. You can also hear our Thursday Big Book Study recordings at (641) 715-3900, pin 298913#. These meetings can be accessed at any time.