(week 197) 8 October 2015 12-step Study All Addictions Big Book Workshop
AA 12 x 12 Page 57
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
1. Make your Big Book and 12 x 12 your own, along with the 3rd step prayer. Do not recite it by rote.
2. Next to the fifth line on page 57 write in the margin ‘promise’ :
We shall get rid of that terrible sense of isolation we’ve always had.
3. Write on this promise.
a) Why should we do a fifth step?
b) If you have already done a fifth step, write if this promise came true or has it not yet happened?
c) If you are in the middle of your fifth step, can you see a glimpse of the promise and want more?
4. ‘There was always that mysterious barrier we could neither surmount nor understand.’
Above the word ‘barrier’ (first paragraph page 57) write: pride and fear
After reading your fourth step, return home and spend an hour just sitting alone with God, asking is there anything else. Have a piece of paper and pencil and if God gives you your Aunt Tidy, your brother Keith, your first boss, whatever, you write it down. And then you go right back into meditation. If God gives you people you have not put on your list that you know really need to be there to clean up, then you write the resentment, or the fear or the sex inventory and then call back the person you did your fifth step and you say this came up when I did what Stephanie told me to do.
After this, again take down the Big Book, read the first five steps. Ask God is there anybody else? Sit with it for an hour. If nobody comes up you do the sixth step. And read those questions.
The foundations are in place. That means that you have completed: you have done the hour with God and God didn’t bring up anything. And if you can say ‘yes’ to the sixth step you go right onto the seventh. It doesn’t mean you have completed them but you go on. Then do the seventh step prayer and live in steps six and seven asking God to divulge your character defects.
All you have to do is go back to your fourth step and see your character defects and write each one on a separate 3 x 5 card (or whatever works for you) and then every day you take out one of those cards. You see the character defect and on the back you have written the opposite and an action plan on how you instigate the positive in your life. It is so simple and very effective. You work every day until all of us as a group have done steps six and seven. Then I will give you instructions for steps eight and nine.
If people want to go ahead, I ask: where are you going? What’s your hurry? In my opinion there is real value in staying with the group. People write to me all the time asking if they can go ahead. Of course. I will encourage you in whatever God is telling you to do. For myself, my sponsor encouraged me to stay with the group. And sixteen years later I am still doing it and I will for the rest of my life, one day at a time by the help of God.
When doing the fifth step get onto the other person’s schedule. They are doing you a favour. Bring something that represents your Higher Power: a picture, a rock, shell, etc. Bring a candle and light it when you say the 3rd step prayer. This is not in the book, it is what my sponsor did for me. It means a lot to me. We prayed together before I started reading and we always prayed at the end.
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