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6/23/2016 0 Comments Recording For June 23, 2016(week 233) 23 June 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Big Book workshop Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.” To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact: [email protected] 8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) studying Bill W’s biography ’Pass It On’ . callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913# If you would like to contact Stephanie [email protected] Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website. Please send to: Stephanie Whiting P O Box 531 North Pembroke MA 02358 Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.” Big Book page 76, beginning of third paragraph: ‘Now we need more action, without which we find that “Faith without works is dead.” Let’s look at Steps Eight and Nine. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal..” 12 x 12 Page 77. Step 8. Soul work Q1. Re-read your 4th step. And ask God: How did I hurt/harm this person? You see where you were selfish and how you acted out. You may have cut the person out of your life, been nasty and you may have gossiped. You will see whether you were dishonest, and your self-seeking behaviour – that is the harm right there. Pray pray pray to have the right attitude to make these amends. It is only by talking about specific issues that we get to the general principle. In this case we go to the specific on the card and we get to the bigger principle. Step 8 is all about coming into willingness to make amends to them all. 12 x 12 page 77: First paragraph page 77 Soul work: We consider how, with our newfound knowledge of ourselves, we may develop the best possible relations with every human being we know.’ Q1. Put a bracket around this and beside it: write GOAL [We live in reality. We learnt from our mistakes so that today we can live in the best possible relationship with every human being we know]. Q2. Continue writing 3 x 5 cards – and if you would like to, share them with your buddy or buddy group. [Let God work through the group. Of course no feedback. How does it sound to you when you read it aloud? Keep going to God asking: Is that what they need to hear from me?] Q3. If you were to make an amends today what is your motive? Keep checking your motive and keep going to your God and your buddy group. Questions Again, good generalship, if there is question, perhaps about what you want to say or whether you have hurt and harmed someone, bring the 3 x 5 card to me either at the workshop or off-line one to one: [email protected] The main question to ask is: God show me what you want me to know about this amend. And I guarantee God will show up. Amends: We are only in the preparation stage and it is where we bring our recovery from the inside to the outside and into the world. You are telling people: I am in a recovery programme, I am working on myself, I see that I harmed you in this particular way. Amends need to be done with the utmost wisdom. Amends is not just a quick: I am so sorry. To say that will hurt them even more than not saying anything. It needs to be done with the right heart. That is why I am going to belabor Step 8. Just like step 7 where you really saw you were the problem, and our mistaken thinking was the problem. In all our relationships in our whole life – it has been our mistaken thinking. Now we have tools to learn from those past mistakes and to really become women of wisdom. So in Step 8 we go very very slow and cautious. in step 8, If God puts somebody in my path I had forgotten, I can say: Can I speak to you privately for a few minutes? Then say: I am in a 12 step recovery programme and when I knew you in high school I was really really fearful and unhappy and I was jealous of you and I was not kind to you and I am really sorry for that. Today if you came into my life I would not treat you like that but I hope you accept my amends. And that is it. 6/16/2016 0 Comments Notes For June 16, 2016NOTICE: Unfortunately, The Recording Is Not Available For This Meeting.
(week 231-2 ) 16 June 2016 12 Step Study All Addictions Big Book Workshop (wk 231 on June 9 2016 when Stephane was away – see week 230 for soul work) Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.” To join the members list, be sent the soul work and/or if you would like a buddy, contact: [email protected] 8am EST Tuesdays workshop (same tel. no.) studying Bill W’s biography ’Pass It On’ . callback: 641 715 3900 pin 298913# If you would like to contact Stephanie [email protected] Donations are urgently needed towards the cost of the website. Stephanie says: We could use some money. We just had the third attack on our website in six months and had to buy more protection. I will put every penny I have to protecting your computer from our website. Thank you to Debbie and Linda for your help.” Please send to: Stephanie Whiting P O Box 531 North Pembroke MA 02358 Step 8: Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.” Big Book page 76, beginning of third paragraph: ‘Now we need more action, without which we find that “Faith without works is dead.” Let’s look at Steps Eight and Nine. We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal..” Steps 8 and 9 are very much action steps Q1. On 3 x 5 cards write the person’s name, contact details and the exact nature of the harm done. Divide these into three piles: 1. I am ready to make the amends now 2. I am not yet ready 3. I never want to make amends. I don’t know if I need to make amends. Pray about all the cards and take them to Quiet Time – especially those on the third pile. Go back to when you took inventory (which is some time ago now). Remember all you have to write on the card is the name, contact information, the exact nature of your wrong. You may not know the exact nature of your wrong so do a step 10 – continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong and promptly admit it – did I really harm them? If there is a question mark put in the third pile and keep asking God. So this is your action right now: Writing and praying. We are separating steps eight and nine. We are looking at just step eight. We need time: TIME: Things I Must Experience. ‘We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal. ‘ Write this down: Pride comes before the fall. ‘The block to 100 percent honesty about 100 percent of our lives comes from pride. and underneath this is fear of not being good enough.’ Q2. Write about that. Please scour your life. Are you being 100 percent honest? Please bring this to God. Honesty is the key to the rest of the steps. If you reach step 8 and find yourself not being 100 percent honest about 100 percent of your life to people who expect you to have an intimate relationship with them: groups you belong to, your sponsor, spouse, buddy group, etc, write about it. Stephanie says: ‘I believe that there is no recovery without honesty.’ Q3. Take an incident in your life, There is your story (with lots of times mistaken thinking), the other person’s story and somewhere in the middle there is the truth. Write about that – it is what step 8 brings to the light. IMPORTANT! Do not under any circumstances make amends. ‘The action right now is to write out the cards. We are not making amends. If you see someone you need to make amends to, make a living amends: be kind, considerate friendly. When you go to make amends and you have been kind considerate friendly, it will be easier. Remember: God is in charge. 6/2/2016 0 Comments Recording For June 2, 2016Week 230 >Stephanie will be in Bermuda, with no phone coverage next week, June 9. Angela will open with 3rd Step prayer and Set Aside Prayer. Then we will read Tradition 8; each person who volunteers, will read one page. After that we will discuss amongst ourselves. Please join and get to know each other! We need to be very grounded within our relationship with HP, because we will be bringing other people into our practice. people who were hurt by us, and hurt people can hurt others. We don’t know if they will be hurting. That’s why why we will need guidance. HP is our Divine Order, and Stephanie will be our general. We are the army going out to do God’s bidding. God’s bidding: to build bridges, and to be of service to others. BB All Addictions with Stephanie Week #230, June 2, 2016 Step 8 Big Book page 76, Paragraph 3 Read the 7th Step prayer above paragraph 3. Note: We will go OUT from here, to do Your bidding. We are cleaning OUR SIDE OF THE STREET. We must go out into the world and make right. Our responsibility~to put away our character foible PRIDE, which kills us spiritually. We have done the work within ourselves in Steps 1~7. Step 7 is where we see how far we’ve come. We learn humility: accepting ourselves, our life as it is, our past, with God, exactly as it is. Steps 8 & 9 is where the rubber meets the road. Where does our list come from? Who we feel resentment towards! Do all this with God by our side. 1) The process for two weeks from today~writng our list. A) Write down everyone on a piece of paper, including self if needed. (include owe money to) B) Go to God, take that person, read the resentment for that person from our 4th Step inventory. C) Put on 3X5 card everyone we resent. D) Write exact nature of my wrongs on the back of the card. Write “I resented you because you…” Make 3 piles, one for “Yes, now”, one for “Maybe in the future”, one for “Never” That’s all for now. Do this 20 minutes a day, or like you did step 4. We do not need to go to everyone. Stephanie will guide us here. Stephanie will give us all the details on how to approach people, get their contact info, etc. 2) If you want to answer this second question, here it is: How does Faith fit in with Steps 1~7, and with Step 8, and answer why “Faith without works is dead” (pg 76) |
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