Week 274 March 30, 2017
BB top p.86 "It works... THROUGH end of top paragraph..."It would be easy to be vague about this matter. Yet, we believe we can make some definite and valuable suggestions."
Q(1) Write out what Stephanie explained at the workshop's beginning about the content of the Steps and then own it by writing it and defining it in your own words.
Q(2) "It works..." - What works?
Q(3) "...if we have the proper attitude and work at it." (BB p. 86, top line, first full sentence)
(a) What's the proper attitude?
(b) Do you feel 1-you don't have time for 'it' or 2-you can't live without it?
Q(4)(a) What does prayer mean to you?
What do you pray? (b) Do you like the prayers you pray?
Q(5)(a) What does meditation mean to you? Do you like it? (b)Do you like the way you do it? (c)Do you want to explore meditation?
Q(6) See how one week changes your attitude towards prayer and meditation.
Don't be vague.
Week 273, March 23, 2017
Step Eleven continued.
Big Book p. 85 begin para 3 - p. 86 end of first full sentence.
"Step Eleven suggests prayer and meditation. ... Better men than we are using it constantly. It works, if we have the proper attitude and work at it."
Q What does it mean to be "in fit spiritual condition"?
A These are suggestions (not original to Stephanie but from a workshop attended) given by Stephanie:
(1) Pray constantly.
Each moment try to have constant contact with God. How? Through conversation.
Conversation = PRAYER.
Prayer= talking to God. ...TALKING
(2) Meditate daily = LISTENING, in Quiet Time.
(3) Read Twelve Step literature and spiritual literature Daily.
(They can be one and the same.)
(4) Give program away, most especially the Spiritual part.
(5) Talk daily to Twelve Step people and also an accountability person (the latter can be the same person you call your 'sponsor').
(6) Do service in your groups.
(7) Go to meetings and business meetings and share recovery, not the problem. Participate in a positive way.
Share about how God is the foundation of the Steps and be willing to be driven out of your Step One Fellowship because of speaking too much about God.
(8)Stay up to date with any resentments, fears, selfish motives, and dishonesty
( Step Ten).
(9) Be at peace with yourself and others by making amends when needed (Steps Eight and Nine).
(10) Stay rigorously honest
(100% honest about 100% of your life; no shaving the truth).
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don't say it mean.
(11) Surrender your will to God's Will.
Look up: constantly
Q(1)(a) Write on each of the eleven suggestions above. What do they look like? (b) Do you want them? (c) Are they useful? (d)How are you doing them? Give examples.
Q(2)(a) Are you doing prayer and meditation constantly? (b)What does constantly mean to you - once a day/ twice a day/ when you get into trouble?
Q(3) "It works... ."
(a) What do you say 'it' means?
(b) Own the 'it' promise. Does it work for you?
(c) Has it worked for you in the past and not anymore? Or are you just new to working prayer and meditation?
Q(4) Put the word PROMISE above "It works".
Are you willing to devote one-third of your day to prayer and meditation to get the promise that 'it works'?
Q(5) Have the proper attitude of Gratitude.
(a) What about you - what does proper attitude mean to you?
(b) Do you have it?
(c) And if yes, are you doing the proper Action Plan around it and working at it?
Week 272, March 16, 2017
Beginning Step Eleven.
BB p.85 begin para 1 – p.86 middle line 2
“It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels. … THROUGH … It
works, if we have the proper attitude and work at it.”
Q(1) Are you walking towards prideful or humble thinking?
Q(2)(a) What does it mean “It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action”?
(b)Have you done that?
Q(3)(a) What does it mean to rest on your laurels? (b) Have you? (c) Is there someone in your life or program that is resting on their laurels?
(d) How do you share this information that you got from this paragraph (BB p.85 para 1, first sentence)?
Q(4) Do you believe you are headed for trouble if you rest on your laurels?
Q(5) In the back of your mind, with the amount of sobriety you have, do you believe that you are really cured?
Q(6)(a) What does “daily reprieve” mean to you?
(b) What does “maintenance of our spiritual condition” look like in your life?
Q(7)Take the temperature – are you walking towards pride or towards humility?
Q(8)(a) How are you going to know God’s vision for His will/version of His will? (b)And how are you going to carry it in to all your activities?
Q(9)(a) How are you going to know how the God-of-your-understanding wants you to best serve Him? (b) And how are you going to serve Him?
Q(10) Write on the following and turn it over to somebody:
(a) Thank God for what you’ve been given
(b) Thank God for what God has taken from you
(c) Thank God for what God has left you
Q(11) “Better men than we are using it constantly.” (see BB p.85 beginning of last sentence)
(a) What does ‘constantly’ mean?
(b) What do you want to do – do you want to be praying constantly? (It’s up to you.)
Q(12) People who have constant contact
with God are happy, free, joyous and sober. Are you – happy, free, joyous and sober?
Q(13) What attitude are you bringing into Quiet Time? Is it intimacy?
Week 271 – 9 March 2017 – 12Step Big Book All Addictions Workshop
Week Tradition Ten cont’d – to end.
AA 12&12 p.177 para 2 – p.179 end of chapter.
“Maybe this sounds as though the alcoholics in A.A. had suddenly gone peaceable, and become one great big happy family. Of course, this isn’t so at all. …THROUGH…Thus was laid the cornerstone for Tradition Ten: “Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.”
Q(1)(a) What does “AA has no opinion on outside” issues mean to you?
(b) Give an example of how you’ve broken that in your time in recovery.
(c) And give an example of how you’ve not said something in a meeting because you knew it would be an outside issue.
Q(2)Put your name where there is a blank:
________ has no opinion on other people’s issues. Hence, ________ has never been drawn/brought into public controversy.
Q(3)(a) Do you have an angry person in your life?
(b) In your Step One fellowship or Big Book groups? Have you gone to the business meeting and brought it up?
(c) What fear in you is coming up that you’re therefore not confronting this angry person?
(d) Do a fear inventory on it.
Look up: din, puny, rows
Q(4) How do you feel –
Do you see how important it really is to keep your focus on the space inside your own hula hoop ( e.g. your own political or religious leanings, your own marriage, the way you bring up your kids,
even the way you do your Big Book – for instance: Hyannis method or any other)?
Next week: Big Book – Step Eleven.
Week 270 March 2, 2017
(A) near end of STEP TEN in AA 12&12:
p.93 beginning of para 3 – p.94 end of line 2.
“When evening comes…many of us draw up a balance sheet for the day. …THROUGH…we know that the pains of drinking had to come before sobriety, and emotional turmoil before serenity.”
Q(1)(a) Did you try something this week?
Did you fail or succeed?
(b) If you succeeded, how did you feel?
(c) If you failed, how did you feel? And did you make an action plan towards succeeding?
Q(2) Take something you failed at and look at it. How did you react –
(a) Did you just blow it off that you didn’t succeed?
(b) Or did you go to God and make an action plan?
Q(3) Are you in agreement that the pains of your addiction had to come before sobriety?
Q(4) How did you do this week choosing serenity over emotional turmoil –
(a) Did you have an incident this week where you chose serenity over emotional turmoil? Or emotional turmoil over serenity?
(b) What did it look like?
(B) AA 12&12 begin Tradition Ten:
p.176 – p.177 end para 1.
“Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the A.A. name ought never be drawn into public controversy.”
…THROUGH…”Since recovery from alcoholism is life itself to us, it is imperative that we preserve in full strength our means of survival.”
Look up: provocation, controversy, imperative
Q(5)(a) Have you been bringing outside issues into your Step One meeting?
(b) What does what Stephanie described as ‘outside issues’ mean to you regarding bringing outside issues into
your Step One meetings?
Q(6) Underline AA12&12 p.177, first sentence of para 1:”Let us re-emphasize
that this reluctance to fight one another or anybody else is not counted as some… .”
(a) Write on it.
(b) Do a Tenth Step:
Are you feeling superior to others -because you’re sober,
because you’ve done the Big Book, or because of any other area where you may be a member of something?
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