AA 12 & 12, Step 8, Page 81;
Tradition 8, page 166
1) Write on:
“We should ponder and weigh each instance carefully. We shall want to hold ourselves to the course of admitting the things we have done, meanwhile forgiving the wrongs done us, real or fancied. We should avoid extreme judgements, both of ourselves and of others involved. We must not exaggerate our defects or theirs.”
a) Are you doing Step 8?
b) If not, why not? Explain.
c) If you are, are you avoiding extreme judgements?
d) Are you exaggerating your own mistakes, or theirs?
2) Write on the last paragraph, page 82:
“Whenever our pencil falters, we can fortify and cheer ourselves by remembering what A.A. experience in this Step has meant to others.
It is the beginning of the end of isolation from our fellows and from God.
3) Continue to write out your cards and their contact info. Face to face is the best way, if not, phone, if not letter, if not e-mail.
If they don’t want to see you, stop.
If they don’t answer your phone call , try one more time.
Always ask permission.
(week 250) 13 October 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop
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AA 12 x 12 bottom of page 80
(week 249) 6 October 2016 12 Step Study Big Book All Addictions Workshop
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. “
AA 12 x 12 Page 80
“…Since defective relations with other human beings have nearly always been the immediate cause of our woes, including our alcoholism, no field of investigation could yield more satisfying and valuable rewards than this one. “
Insert ‘with God’ after the word ‘reflection.’ Calm, thoughtful reflection upon personal relations can deepen our insight.
Q1. Define ‘harm.’ How would you define: ‘hurt and harmed another person?’
Q2. Page 80, paragraph 2. How does Bill’s description of our defective relations to others match up with your own definition? Do you agree with ‘instincts in collision’?
Q3. Did your consistently bad temper arouse anger in others which you then blamed on them?
Q4a). Did you lie or cheat?
b) Do you see how this deprived others of not only their worldly goods but also their emotional security and peace of mind?
c) And why they would become contemptuous, vengeful and shout at you?
Then you made your resentment list for what they did. Can you see that.?
Q5. Contrast then with now. Where are you? Are you a patient person or do you arouse anger in others? Do you still lie and are thus not 100% honest about 100% of your life?
Do you try to cheat – getting more than what God wants you to have?
Q6. Do you take responsibility for being a person that does not give rise to emotional insecurity and hurting somebody’s peace of mind?
Write about then and now.
Stephanie gives us soul work so that we have something to write on 3 x 5 cards and bring to Quiet Time and work on with God and your accountability partner.
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