Soul Work Thursday 8/30/2012
Chapter 2: There is a Solution; Page 23 paragraph 2, through top of page 24 “Once in a while he may tell the truth.”
Words: malady, baffled, rouse, lethargy
1)“Once in a while he may tell the truth” (first sentence pp2, page 23)
Once you came into recovery did you tell yourself the truth? Did you tell the people in your Step One Fellowship the truth?
2) How long in recovery did it take you to understand the reason why you picked up the first bite?
2a) How long did it take you to want to be 100% honest (not out of fear)?
3) When was the last time you made an excuse when you were supposed to do something you didn’t do for yourself, somebody else?
4) “An excuse is nothing more than a lie I tell myself” … Write on that.
5) Look up the definition of Malady. Put into 3 areas; physical, emotional, spiritual.
What is your malady physically, emotionally, spiritually?
6) Do you have the obsession some have that someday you’re going to ‘beat the game’ or ‘make it’ in life?
7) What is the spiritual ‘We’? Go back and review.
(34) 23 August 2012 Big Book Step Study Workshop
There Is A Solution: page 22 from the beginning of the final paragraph:
‘We know that while the alcoholic keeps away from drink…’ until page 23 end of second paragraph: ‘…he will laugh it off, or become irritated and refuse to talk.’
look up: virtually, havoc, fallacious
Q1. What is the ‘something’ that happens when you want you to pick up. Explain it as if to a newcomer or an oldtimer who just doesn’t get it. Talk of the bodily and mental aspects (and about withdrawals if you have experience of the latter).
Q2. Have you had an experience where you took the first compulsive bite (or several) and then stopped?
Q3. ‘These observations would be academic and pointl
Q4. ‘They sound like the philosophy of the man who, having a headache, beats himself on the head with a hammer so that he can’t feel the ache.’
Can you relate to that sentence in your own step one story?
(33) 16 August 2012 Big Book Step Study Workshop
There Is A Solution page 20 paragraph three: ‘How many times people have said to us, “I can take it or leave it alone…” until end of fourth paragraph page 22: ‘…We cannot answer the riddle.’
Look up: ignorance, debacle.
Q1. Try to remember if anyone has ever said anything to you like ‘why can’t you stop?’ How did you respond then and how would you respond today?
Q2 Do you have any clueless and misunderstanding people in your life today?
And are they as ignorant and clueless about your recovery as they were about your addiction?
Q3 Write about moderate, hard and real (putting our own story in there).
[Take three paragraphs from bottom page 20 to top of page 21]
Do you see these three classes in your step one fellowship?
Q4 Take that paragraph that describes a real alcoholic, and if you feel you that describes you, go through the paragraphs on pages 21-21 and read each sentence and then put your story into it.
Q5 Why does he behave like this?
Q6 In your groups are your physical needs being met? (e.g. is there enough support around being physically sober?) In the groups that you attend are you getting enough support emotionally? Ditto intellectually, spiritually? And socially too? (We are social beings).
(32) 9 August 2012 Big Book Step Study Workshop
There Is A Solution from page 19 line three: ‘None of us makes a sole vocation of this work…’ until page 20 end of second paragraph ‘…Before going into a detailed discussion, it may be well to summarize some points as we see them.’
look up: deportment (page 18)
(I have also circled in my copy: vocation, effectiveness and elimination (in the first para page 19 but this may be from when I started the Big Book study process in 2009!)
Q1 ‘Our very lives as ex-problem drinkers depends on upon our constant thought of others and how we may help meet their needs.’ How can that be a very attractive statement for the newcomer?
Q2 Do you believe that your very life depends upon your constant thought of others? And if so, why?
Q3 How can you help meet the needs of newcomers in your step one fellowship? For example would you write out an action plan. Do you have the phone numbers of step one fellowships and in your town? Would you give them this number?
Soul Work Thursday 8/02/2012
Chapter 2: There is a Solution; Page 18 beginning of paragraph 4 thru page 19, end of first sentence. ‘But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution, who is properly armed with facts about himself….’ until end of first sentence page 19, ‘…After such an approach many take up their beds and walk again.’
1) Properly armed facts about yourself from the past, is there anyone in your life with whom you hold on to resentments, or are upset with? (Who in your life is the elephant in your relationship?)
1a) How can you get properly armed with the facts and communicate with them?
2) Write out a ‘2-minute facts’ about your addictive behaviors, and how you would be properly armed to help a newcomer?
3) Do you put human qualities/traits onto your Higher Power?
3a) Are you still looking for a human solution?
4) What aren’t you doing in your life because you don’t trust yourself to do it and the fear of being looked at doing it imperfectly means you are afraid you will be abandoned?
5) The solution can be boiled down to Trust and Rely upon God, pray about it (write about it put it in your God jar) and just keep praying and sharing your writing with a trusted person.
You have this huge issue, will you pray about it?
6) Have you taken up your bed and are you walking again?
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