Week 278 April 27, 2017
When you’re on your death bed, you’re not going to wish for more money or possessions. You’re going to be thinking about relationships. For Stephanie, the order of relationships is God first, her husband second, and her relationships third. She puts a lot of time and effort in being with people. Her church family, her recovered family, her family, her husband’s family. People, people, people. A recovered person cares about others as much as yourself.
Step 11: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out."
It takes Step 1, 2, & 3. I can’t, God can and I’m going to let him. It has to be iron clad. Referenced “The Hawk” and Mark Houston workshops. They said when someone slips, it’s always a question of step 1. Step 1 has not been iron clad. Slipee has allowed wiggle room. “I’m not really powerless, I can handle it”. When you have trouble with any step, you go back to the one before it. EX: I don’t want to do step 11, then they would say you go back to step 10 and question and say “Do I really believe I have to take personal inventory?” Then you go back to 8&9, 6&7. There is a character defect that you’re not willing to face. You question yourself (with your sponsor) and you end up with step 1. You’ve given yourself a loophole. You’re not powerless and so you don’t have to have a God and you haven’t made that decision. There is something in your inventory that you don’t want to face.
The greatest gift to your recovery is to admit where you’re having trouble. Everything depends on your willingness to do 6&7. You can’t make good amends without total willingness to look at your mistakes. You make your amends and you live daily walking around looking at yourself. Being aware of your attitude. Am I kind, loving, do I have the joy of recovery? Am I a person that others see as positive. While maintaining boundaries. It’s not about me, it’s about God. Being an instrument for God.
Live in 10, 11, 12 daily
Step 11, you are serious gaze and gage about how you were doing the day. And if we’re not happy with how we lived our day, answer these questions and realize you need to improve yourself. But can you improve yourself? No, you need God. Step 11, you go to God and say, I was not the best version of myself today. I was cranky, procrastinated, etc. Just talk to God about where you weren’t the best version of yourself. Step 11 is Looking at yourself honestly like you do in 6&7 but knowing you have a partner. And that’s God.
EX: I wasn’t abstinent today, talk to God and ask God for help. Then put the bat away.
On awakening let us think about the 24 hours ahead…..
We plan our day. Pray, Plan, prepare, protect. Quiet time, plan, think about the 24 hours ahead, prepare the day and protect. How to do protect? Has to be certain things that are Iron clad. Ex quiet time, exercise, food prep, etc. Nothing that gets in the way of doing these things. Could be work at 7:30 etc.
Question 1) Write it down What they mean to you. Pray, plan, prepare, protect
Question 2) For the next week. Do it every day. Plotting it in Pray, plan, prepare, protect
Question 3) Bring it to God, yourself and to another human being.
You don’t have to live a stressed life because you have the plan in front of you. But you do need to defend your plan. You need to pray to God for boundaries.
Put intellect over feelings. Wrong motives is people pleasing. What’s the bottom line of people pleasing? Fear
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